He might be genuinely thinking he would love to have a beautiful and exotic girlfriend, but doesn’t understand what he’s getting himself into.
After a few dates, he might come to the realization that dating a foreign girl is not like dating a Japanese woman at all and decide to retreat. In my social circle, most of my foreign lady friends are in long-term relationships with Japanese men.
On the forums of a Japanese culture site aimed at foreigners there were plenty of threads with titles such as “Are Japanese guys not interested in white girls? ” These girls were all wanting to discuss how to make themselves appealing to Japanese men, and thankfully they were treated to a handful of great tips for how to do just that from one especially worldly-wise love expert. Clear, white skin is the essence of beauty in Japan; if you’ve ever been to a beauty counter in Japan you’ll have seen the amount of potions and lotions promising whiter, brighter skin. According to one girl’s analysis, white skin is associated with purity, innocence and youth. Here’s just a few adjectives that Madame Riri takes careful note of: “gracious, respectful, modest, slightly demure, innocent, friendly, approachable, sensitive.” Apparently the most important attribute, however, is shyness.
Our question this week is about how Japanese guys often see foreign women as a temporary fling rather than a serious potential partner.
The preferred route, our expert tells us, is for the girl to act shy, which ups their cuteness factor and makes it easier for the guy to approach them.
If a girl doesn’t speak up around you it’s not because she’s not interested – far from it!
To give you an idea, almost all these guys have lived abroad at some point and can speak English.
If you are looking for something more serious, I’d say definitely go for internationalized guys who have experienced living outside of Japan.